This is a post dedicated to Twitter and my Twitter friends who always seem to know the right thing to say be it sympathy, shared experience, cute photos or dark humour.
I was always very cynical of Twitter. Why would I want to stalkish-ly follow the lives of major celebrities when I already seem to hear all about they’re mistakes and mishaps on the news. Or tweets from friends like ‘eating breakfast’- Oh great! Thank you for sharing that, I’m thrilled to read the mundane and tedious details of your life, it has enriched my own. I didn’t get it. And I still don’t- that culture. The follow back thing, where you have thousands of followers who don’t actually care what you say because you just followed each other for an extra number on your feed.
But I have experienced something different. And it’s been so so helpful to me. It sounds silly to say that- that an online community of people who I don’t know face-to-face have been a massive help in my survival and early stages of recovery, and a few months ago I wouldn’t have believed it myself but as Precious always says on Come Fly with Me “The Laard works in misteeerius ways!”
The strength that comes from a huge number of vulnerable people, who are suffering immensely, when they are gathered together for good, is an amazing thing to be part of. It’s the shared experience and empathy that means no one assumes they understand, or thinks you should be doing more- the lack of judgement, and in it’s place the support and encouragement. I personally have gained hugely from the vlogs, blogs and tweets of others. Not only have I made friends and joined a community, I have a place where I can learn to validate myself through the constant validation and positivity of others. We all try to keep each other going. And furthermore, I have been able to find out about opportunities to get involved in activistism and campaigning through the network, which gives me an important chance to find meaning and purpose in the midst of this hell.
From others, I have learnt more about my own disorder and those of others, I have learnt not to be so cynical of what could or couldn’t help and I’ve learnt that important things to value are often small and silly. Cute animals wearing sunglasses, the fact that I’ve managed to get out or encourage someone else or a brilliant joke about the insanity that rules many of our lives currently.
I am the one in four. We are the one in four. And I truly believe we have something to add and improve in this world.
Here are some examples of tweets I have loved the most.